Traveling through life with baggage, will cost ya.

We all know someone who, knows someone, who is in this "relationship" with a real choice fella. Well what if the guy (or girl) comes with some real baggage? When do you tell yourself, enough with this! Or do  you tell yourself that? If you truly care about someone, don't you stick it out? If say the person had a traumatic experience as a youth, but never really dealt with it...sorta lives like a child still and you can tell they are hurting but never really admits it. Is it  a sign to just run away or do you stand by the  and try to chip away at the stone around them, protecting them? I like to crack a case so for me, breaking in would be the answer. Who knows, we are put here for a reason and maybe your purpose is to save them.

For the past several years, I have worked in the beauty industry, so I have met a lot of women. I love women. I love women with issues even more! I had my blog on the other website but due to monthly postings that I just couldn't keep up with ... I am back to my original. Women with issues, fuel my brain with ideas to type about, so ladies... Thank you!

Anyways back to that matching Louie luggage of a guy ... People stay with men that are abusive, verbally and physically. Emotional abuse like stonewalling, is a terrible form. Stonewalling is when you ignore your mate, no emotional connection with, in the end, will just murder that partnership. I am a slight stonewaller. When I get mad, I ignore completely, something I am working on but, I digress. What if you were sent to that person to help the, sort out their past pain and help the, find their way? I believe you should try, try to dig deep and if it doesn't work, know you have it your all. Something is keeping you in contact. Remember that.

Now, do not judge my grammar, spelling errors, typos and shit... I am typing a blog for the first time on my iPad and never have I claimed to be a stellar words man.

Xoxo

Hitch

To the lonely hearts around the world...

I listen all day to people talk and discuss their relationships or lack there of and it baffles me.  I don't know what these people do or act like when they are out but I am thinking if they are who they "play on TV" then they are in for a rude awakening.  If you can't be yourself in front of basically no body important, how are you suppose to be comfortable in front of a man?  I don't get it.  I don't judge a book by its cover but I think that there are deep rooted issues if you are that uncomfortable in your own skin! 

We are a good looking group of women with different personalities and all strong ones!  When you are over shadowed by peers, then you are going to be invisible in a crowd.  It is sad.  I have never been quiet, timid or a phony...ever!  I can't be, it is not in my nature.  I am a loud person, funny and a ball buster to the max.  I have a hard time smiling and being somewhat nice to people who I don't like...I thik it is my best quality.  I can make someone very uneasy if I don't like them. 

So, onto dating issues...  When you act like you are fabulous and have it together but really are neither, eventually they will know.  Like Chris Rock has said, when you first meet someone, you meet their representative.  I think that it is very true.  It is usually the non-complaining, easy going rep they meet but not a whole other person that even your alter ego's shoes are too hard to fill.  It is suppose to be the best version of yourself, not a whole other idea of a person.  If you are an "old navy" kinda girl deep down but act like you are a "Bebe" fashionista, no one will buy it.  They are two polar opposites.  See for me, I am the baseball (Red Sox) loving, well dressed and casual, trendy, prep that I have always been.  I have never tried to become something I wasn't.  I have had my heart broken, been the "best friend" and the go to girl that you want to just hang out with.  I was never the hot chick at the bar, the long haired, big boob, runway praying mantis, that men chased.  I was the beer drinking, skinny, short haired, baseball cap wearing loud mouth in the middle of the room and having fun.  But, as much fun as that was, I had a desire to be the other girl.  I never could be though because the beer chugger would naturally come out.  I don't have a high pitched, sweet voice.  I don't have the flirt ability they did... I was honest.  I was real.  After fighting the urge to change into that high maintenance, hot mess... which I am glad I never became that, I learned to LOVE who I am.  I love who I am.  Grant it, I would change a few lumps and bumps but nothing to cry over.  I am proud of my truck driver mouth!

Yes I have had my heart broken, into pieces.  I would like a boy, they wouldn't look at me that way.  When you are 17, they want the slutty hot girl.  I never changed.  I dated.  Dumped.  Dated. Dumped.  I was always ahead of the curve though.  You never pulled some shit on me...being a tomboy, I thought like a guy.  You meet a guy, you exchange numbers, you best believe my number will never ever pop up on your screen.  I have stressed that to my single friends a million times.  If a guy likes you, he will call you.  If he don't, he don't like you.  He liked you after 15 Grey Goose.  You are better then that and move on.  I am old fashion.  A man should chase you, it is their job.  Women want to be pursued.  It makes us feel special.  Never let a man make you feel otherwise.  You are better than that.  If not, then you deserve your heart ache. 

This life is short, you need to take advantage of every moment.  If one thing in your life is causing you heart ache, the rest of your life will become painful too.  F*ck it!  Leave em!  You are not defined by marital status, by job titles, by addresses.  You are defined by YOU.  If you are the best version of you all the time, you can't go wrong.  Make the changes to better yourself. If not, you will be a lonely soul for a long time.

XOXOX

Hitch :)

The day comes to a close...

I sit here at work, finishing up the day and as always, full of laughs!  We always laugh and say "I love us" at work.   Whenever one of us is going through something rough, we always pick em up.  It is like a safe house, keeping us sane.  I have been through some rough times but they seem to fade away when I come to work.  I appreciate that all the time.  I can't say enough how much I love my job, but I will say it again... I LOVE MY JOB!

So as this day comes to a close... I am faced with going home!  I get bored sitting there.  I remember being younger and always having something to do on the weekends, where did those days go?  I get that I am "almost 30 ;)" and married but why does the fun need to end?  Why can't I still go to the local watering hole and get drunk on $20 and dance the night away?  I am recalling my youth!  I miss the smell of cigarettes in bars, yes I said that!  I miss the loud ass blaring music, I miss the blisters and the sweat.  I want to go out this weekend and shake my ass all night and not worry about people looking at me like I am some crazy PUMA.  I remember when just driving around, drinking a Zima and listening to some house music was enough.  Or hanging out at a park, watching the boys play basketball was almost TOO much!  I know that we get older and "grow up" but why do we have to lose our zest for life?  I don't think it has to be that way.  I know we have responsibilites as adults and have to handle our business but I think we can still love the bigger things.  I do not feel my age, well except for when I am hungover and exhausted... I can't hang the way I used to, other than that, I don't.  I act like the same goofy nut I have always been. 

I guess I just needed to vent about the aging process and how envious I am of the youngins' that don't realize how great they have it!

XOXOXO

Hitch

hollywood Romance

I tortured my poor hubs by making him see "Valentine's Day" tonight and I mean, this movie was not good. I'm a romantic to the core but something has happened over the years that has changed the idea of marriage and relationships. Marriage used to be a business type deal now girls are on a mission to find IT ALL. It doesn't exist, not truly. We want a whirlwind romance and hot sexy nights, but who really feels sexy after long working days or over eating at your Italian FEAST sunday's? I hardly feel seductive in my current ensemble of flannel pjs and purple t-shirt but I certainly am not going to slap on some makeup and a pair of boy shorts to lounge around! Why do WE need to seduce our men visually? Why don't they throw on a nice suit at night or a cop uniform (whichever tickles your fancy) to keep us interested? We watch these movies where sex and love prevail and it is perfect and no one is unsatisfied, ever. In the real world, I think we are unsatisfied. We want perfection but you may have just that, already. I take a step back once in a while to look at what I have and let me tell you, it is pretty damn good!

My husband is a hard worker, funny as hell, a romantic and loving man. I'm lucky. He has changed a lot in the past 7 years to become who he is today. I believe people change, we all do. I'm not the same today as I was 10 years ago. If I was, shame on me! My heart has always been topped off with love and always willing to give it. I have always been a trouble maker, a fighter, outspoken, funny and pretty damn rude. Those are my best qualities! Those don't change but I've grown up. I've become a woman, a wife and an adult. I changed. People do change. Not always for the best but regardless they do.

So, if you are single and holding onto that dream that your McDreamy will come along, you may be single for a long time. There maybe 1 out there but guess what? Thousands of women just like you are searching for him too. I'm not saying settle but the chick flick situations only exist on paper :)

Hitch